"That which does no earthly good cannot be heavenly minded." R. Rivera

Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine. Forget Not The Goats.

There is a danger in loving to read and being fascinated by history, both. One sometimes discovers things one wishes went undiscovered. Valentine's Day is a case in point. My blogging has been quite in arrears, and all I wanted to do was to send you all a brief but sincere Valentine's Day greeting. But I couldn't help myself. First, I had to find out where Valentine's Day came from.

A word to the wise: Don't go looking for the origins of established and formerly unquestioned cultural practices. It may just take the wind right out of your sails.

I'd love to be able to say that Valentine was an early Christian who was martyred by a Roman Emperor for some selfless act of love, and that before his heroic death he sent a letter to a girl he had miraculously healed and subsequently fallen in love with (the daughter of his jailer, no less) and signed it: "From your Valentine."

But as it turns out, the story of that Roman Valentinus and other Valentines are but the stuff of legends, and the truth about Valentine's Day would probably not provide material for a Hollywood blockbuster. For apparently, as with many things in Western culture, Valentine's Day is a mixture of Christian, "pagan" (in this case, Greco-Roman), imagination, and entrepreneurship.

In fact, the Roman fertility rite to Faunus -- that included killing goats and slapping girls with their bloody hides, culminating in girls putting their names in an urn to be drawn in a lottery to match them with men -- was outlawed by the Pope in the late 5th century. So the Christian element actually repudiated historic "Valentine".

But February maintained a tradition related to fertility and love, and by the mid-18th century, Westerners could draw from the likes of Chaucer, Shakespeare, Donne, and many others for romantic Valentine inspiration.

Westerners were also drawing from folk traditions that went back ages: Girls, think of the boys you'd like to marry. Take an apple and twist the stem while reciting their names. The name you mention when the stem twists off is the one you'll marry. Sounds silly but for the fact that we still have many versions of this Roman lottery game today. (Don't get me started on the tradition of wish-bone snapping--also Roman.) I wonder how many apples little girls would go through before the stem finally came off on the right name? Good thing it didn't depend on the collar bones of turkeys, or they'd be extinct today just so we could "get a lucky break."

Printed Valentine cards appeared in England just in time to allow people to say intimate things to one another (from a comfortable distance) at a time when expressing your feelings was discouraged.

Victorian Valentine Card.
Click picture to read poem.

Leave it to an American to turn Valentine into a resounding business success: Esther Howland began mass-producing and selling Valentine cards in the 1840s. Today, according to the Greeting Card Association, some one billion Valentine cards are sent each year, 85% of them by women. And as it turns out, school teachers may get more Valentine cards than anyone: from their school children, who often hand make them. (Now that is a nice factoid, especially as my wife is a school teacher.)

OK, so it turns out that Valentine's Day has come a long way from goat-slapping girls and auctioning them off to men in a lottery. This is one case where ignorance is definitely bliss. I mean what if the girl was 15 and the guy was 50?

And let's not forget the poor goats. They are the real heroes in this whole sorted tale. But who remembers the goats on Valentine's Day? I'm probably the only one in the whole world. How sick is that?

Like many Western holidays and practices we must rely on what they mean to celebrate them properly. The history has disappointed in this case, and commercialization has one all-consuming purpose. But the meaning must never be lost: Love, affection, friendship, good will. That is what we have chosen Valentine to mean.

So I wish for you all
the happiest, the richest, the most blessed Valentine.

First to my wife Anita, who more than any one I've ever known has taught me the meaning of lifelong love and friendship.

And to you, my family and all my friends and readers.

Happy Valentine.

And forget not the goats.





Nezzy said...

Oh my goodness glory. Absolutely...let us not forget the goats!!! I had no idea!!!

Thanks for the info...I think!!! Heeehehee!!! :o)

God bless and have a marvelous Valentine's Day !!!

Angelsdoor * Penny said...

Good gravy Ruben! Well, there you go.. Yes, let's not forget the goats, and this is what happens when our curiosity gets the best of us. I too, had NO IDEA..
Thank you for the info.. I think...teehee.
I am so happy it has evolved into loving cards and flowers..
Wishing you and dear Anita a most joyful Valentine's day..
With great admiration and love to you both.

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Teeeeheee! Oh you, you are the best. Remember the NIMROD TREE? We didn't have a Christmas tree for years for fear I would bring heresy into our home....but what the helk....teeheeee! THIS WAS GENIUS, YOU WONDERFUL THING FROM ANOTHER PLANET, YOU! Moi

The Dutchess said...

This was very interesting..I am now going to find myself a goat and wish him a happy Valentine..
Wonderful witty post...have a great day..


Anonymous said...

I stare at goats.
Splendid post,bravo.

bunny said...

And isn't it appropriate for the kids to be born on Valentines? Because of their heritage line and the National Board of Goats or something like that, they must be given a name that begins with the letter B...so, Beau and Bazooka are doing just fine. I knew the origins of Valentine's Day was not warm and fuzzy and that commercialism crept in at some point, hence my blog reference to just "say it" whenever you felt the urge.

love to you both,

ps. I'm gonna send this link to Diana a friend of mine that is a goat breeder...she'll get a kick outta this.

M.A.the2nd said...

Ruben .... I am devastated! You know I love history and the thought of St. Valentine leaving a love letter for the jailor's daughter was "parfait"! Yes you are right .... too perfect!!!! .. The fawns or goats had it right and we should not forget them! Commercialism I agree has much to answer for, so we must make the special times as special as possible in our own way!
Ruben on another point you and Anita must watch if you can "Picnic at Hanging Rock" ... I think you both would love it ... also I am feeling a post on George Orwell coming on!

M.A. the 2nd

Nezzy said...

I was just checkin' in on ya!

Have a blessed and remarkable week sweetie!!!

Victoria Sayer said...

Hmmmm...yes ignorance is indeed sometimes bliss!
Years ago, I tried to recreate a Valentine's Day event at our then, new church. We had previously held such an evening at a former church, years before, to outstanding success. Providing fun and fellowship to all who attended. But when I suggested such an evening at our (then) new place of worship, I was soundly slapped down and told that it was un-Christian. I had thought that Valentine's Day had evolved from something 'good'.
...goats!, you say?
I have since heard some preachers condemn the use of a decorated Tree, at Christmas.
I think we might have too many 'Fun Police' in this world.
Oh, by the way...
Why did we start snapping wishbones??? ...or maybe, I really shouldn't know this little piece of information. :}

Ruben, you have an amazing wife. But then I don't think I am telling you anything you didn't already know!
Blessings to both of you.

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